Father figures are a key foundation for the community. There are terrible stigmas
out there that leave fathers in an unknown. 43% of boys are raised by single mothers.
78% of teachers are female. This is not a toxic environment. This is a community with a
lack of father figures. If males are growing up without positive male figures, they have no
idea of what that is supposed to look like. There are many images that are portrayed in
the media and other fatherless men and negative male role models. Now they grow up
having children and being scared or thinking that they are better off without because they
don’t know how to be a dad. There is also guilt that plays a factor. This is now toxic for
the individual and the community. This could lead to depression, lack of self-confidence,
and self-awareness. The deficiency of father figures is impactful in so many ways.
Studies have shown that the biggest risks and factors resulting from the absence
of a father figure are higher education or diploma, the child’s social-emotional
adjustment, and adult mental health. We also know common areas such as drug use,
incarceration, and teen pregnancy. This is what scares so many fathers. Is there enough
positive attention around present fathers?
It has been shown that children ages 0-5 that have a father present in their lives
verbal developments are significantly higher than those without a father figure present.
Being present and engaged with young children allows them to feel more secure, and
have a greater pride about themselves. Fathers can help their children’s transition into the
world away from that security by being there and being engaged.
19.7 million children in America are living without a father in the home according
to the U.S. Census Bureau. That is more than 1 in 4 children in America. There are so
many ways that impact communities. The crime rate in communities with absent fathers
increases. This is directly related to fatherless children being more likely to go to prison
and commit crimes. Also, the rate of poverty in homes without the father is 4x more
significant. In smaller communities that have a lot of absent fathers, you will be able to
feel the economic effects. Those 19.7 million children are two times as likely to drop out
of high school. In many cases, without proper education, it is difficult to sustain good
jobs. Communities can fall apart in so many ways without father figures.
We may hear this, see this, and know the effect that this epidemic places on
communities, states, and countries. With positive father figures present we are able to
give children the confidence to succeed in life.
Mothers and fathers are different. Males and females communicate differently. A
study done by Strong Fathers Strong Families shows that mothers are more likely to
simplify their words and get down to the child’s level, while the father speaks in ways
that stretch and challenge their language. Fathers also promote more exploratory and
independent behavior. Dads tend to be more physical, which encourages further physical
and stimulating play than mothers do.
From day one mothers are the center of the universe. Day one babies are
connected with the mother. When they cry from falling, the first reaction is usually a cry
for mother. Mothers are safe for the child. Fathers have to bring them away from that and
gain their trust to show them the world in a way different than a mother.
The importance of the father starts in the home, but reaches far beyond that. The
impact that it has on the community as a whole is tremendously powerful. There could be
less crime in communities. Fathers provide a safer place not only for children but also for
everybody. Positive father figures decrease the rate of poverty by helping to provide in
one way or another. This is so significant to many communities around the country, and
the world. Positive father figures also promote higher education in the community. The
youth need to be educated and have a positive male influence. The trend here is
POSITIVE male figures. Nobody is perfect and there are not perfect dads out there.
Being around and being engaged with the children is proven to promote positive
Daddy can do it too. It starts with the youth, especially in the young
developmental stages of their lives. It doesn’t take a super dad to be a father because as
long as dad’s there and shows them love by being present and engaged positively your
child will believe they have a super dad. There are many barriers that can be overcome
with the right resources, programs, and outlets get help. Daddy Can Do It Too welcomes
fathers to be confident and empowered around other fathers with similar issues. This
program is for dads by dads. We are committed to being there and engaged with our
youth. We will have activities that attract the youth and the dad. We will have science
experiments flying airplanes and making rockets. We also have fun math games to teach
our children with card as well as ways to read and learn math. Being there and by being a
positive father figure with your children supports healthy households, strong
communities, and a better world for all of us.